Kelly Field

On race, rupture, and what it takes to stay when we get it wrong TL;DR: What does it mean to be implicated in harm while trying to do good? Ethical practice is not about getting it right, but about being willing to stay in uncomfortable relational space long enough to learn something real. As a therapist, I am constantly reflecting, learning, and adjusting. Not out of virtue, but because the work demands it. The world, the culture, and the politics surrounding us are shifting rapidly, and the...

A Gestalt perspective on polyamory, monogamy and the relational field. TL;DR We’ve built a model of love where one person is supposed to be our entire emotional world—it’s breaking under the pressure of modern life. Polyamory isn’t just about sex; for many, it’s an attempt to find honesty, connection, and more sustainable ways of relating. Expanding beyond the couple can redistribute intimacy and support but it also creates new tensions and demands. The real issue isn’t how many people you...

The Quiet Double Standard Around Women’s Boundaries TL;DR Women’s boundaries are often treated differently to men’s.When men say no, it’s seen as autonomy.When women say no, it’s more likely to be experienced as rejection — and sometimes punished. This isn’t just cultural. It’s relational.Boundaries don’t create problems. They reveal them. I’ve created a small quiz under this essay about working with “no.” Whether you’re the one setting a boundary, or the one hearing it, you can use the...