Kelly Field

The art of disappointing people without abandoning yourself. TL;DR:According to Gabor Maté, if you're not a bitch, you might get an autoimmune disease. Whether or not that's true, his provocation raises an important question: what happens when we become so organised around other people's needs that we lose contact with our own? A reflection on self-sacrifice, belonging, boundaries, creativity, and the cost of abandoning ourselves in order to keep everyone else comfortable. At a conference...

The New Loneliness and How Modern Life Leaves Us Emotionally Unseen Do you feel as though we are all becoming more isolated from one another? I have found myself thinking about this a great deal lately. How many of us now spend more time alone, more time behind screens, more time moving through lives that feel increasingly individualised, pressured, and emotionally self-contained. Entire days spent disappearing into laptops and phones. Conversations reduced to message threads, voice notes,...

On race, rupture, and what it takes to stay when we get it wrong TL;DR: What does it mean to be implicated in harm while trying to do good? Ethical practice is not about getting it right, but about being willing to stay in uncomfortable relational space long enough to learn something real. As a therapist, I am constantly reflecting, learning, and adjusting. Not out of virtue, but because the work demands it. The world, the culture, and the politics surrounding us are shifting rapidly, and the...